Making amends. What is making amends anyway? One definition is to correct a mistake that created a bad situation. When we make amends it is not simply to say I'm sorry or apologizing. Instead we attempting to correct a mistake that created a bad situation. Most often this begins by embracing a complete change of attitude and behavior. Our amends are valid even if the other person does not respond. In making amends, we change our thinking from the path we were on that caused a shatter in the relationship. In this way we are able to purge ourselves of guilt and negative feelings. Forgiveness does not mean we lost the fight, it doesn't mean we agree with what happened, it is not saying we will forget what was said or done, but it IS the action of letting it go and moving forward.